Recommended Books

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook has helped over one million readers make a full and lasting recovery from generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, specific phobias, panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and other anxiety-related issues. Packed with the most effective skills for assessing and treating anxiety, this workbook can be used alone or as a supplement to therapy to help you develop a full arsenal of skills for quieting worried thoughts and putting yourself back in control. The book also contains the latest anxiety research and information about medications. Each worksheet in the book will help you learn the skills you need to manage your anxiety, like: relaxation and breathing techniques, challenging negative self-talk and mistaken beliefs, imagery and real-life desensitization, making lifestyle, nutrition, and exercise changes, acceptance and commitment therapy and skills for preventing and coping with panic attacks.

Breaking the Patterns of Depression is for anyone who has symptoms of depression or who knows someone who does and wants to help them. Dr. Yapko’s insightful look into how to break the cycle of depression gives real world tools and techniques for managing and treating symptoms of depression. Dr. Yapko explains what depression is and how to change behavior so mood will change too. It is full of “Learn by Doing” and “Pause and Reflect” exercises to help you through the process. Applying the principals in this book will be sure to elevate mood and help keep it there.

Calm Down! is a set of hypnosis sessions that treat the heart of why people become anxious. Anyone who struggles with anxiety from mild to severe can find benefit from these sessions. Listening to them as described in the set can significantly reduce or eliminate anxiety that is intrusive and otherwise gets in the way of day to day life.

Do you think that you could lessen or overcome your feelings of depression if only you had the right tools? Are you ready to help yourself stop feeling depressed? If so, then you’ve found a powerful resource. The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression is a complete, comprehensive, step-by-step approach you can use, on your own or working with a therapist, to manage and conquer depression.

The good news is that anxiety, guilt, pessimism, procrastination, low self-esteem, and other “black holes” of depression can be cured without drugs. In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life. Now, in this updated edition, Dr. Burns adds an All-New Consumer’s Guide To Anti-depressant Drugs as well as a new introduction to help answer your questions about the many options available for treating depression.

Focus of Feeling Good is a set of hypnosis sessions that treat the heart of why people become depressed. While some depression is chemically based most has, at least a component of the depression based in behaviors. These hypnosis sessions will help you, often seemingly without effort, change behaviors and improve your mood. Anyone who struggles with symptoms of depression, from mild to severe, can find benefit from these sessions. Listening to them as described in the set can significantly reduce and sometimes eliminate depression that is intrusive and otherwise gets in the way of day to day life.

Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? As people come in all languages, varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do there personal expressions of love. Often the giver and the receiver express love in different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch are the five basic love languages. Learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.

And They Were Not Ashamed is for individuals or couples who struggle with sexual and intimacy issues. Using the information will help improve physical and emotional intimacy. This book shines light and truth on the intimate relationship in marriage, and restores sex to its proper position as ordained of God. It is a liberating book written expressly for couples who struggle with sexual problems in marriage. It promises to help couples: improve physical intimacy by identifying and outlining steps to overcome barriers and unnecessary inhibition, increase emotional and spiritual intimacy to create the ultimate ONEness in marriage, assist parents and youth leaders with principles and practices designed to help youth remain morally clean and be better prepared for lasting fulfillment in marriage. The author shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, marriage and family therapist and podcaster. She is the founder of StrengtheningMarriage.com, she writes for various online magazines, publishes an electronic newsletter “Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage” and a marriage blog, and speaks in various venues from couples’ cruises and conferences to television and radio shows.

In this ground-breaking book, Michele Weiner-Davis gives straightforward, effective advice on how couples can stay together instead of come apart. Using case histories to illustrate her marriage-enriching, divorce-preventing techniques, which can be used even if only one partner participates, Weiner-Davis shows readers: how to leave the past behind and set attainable goals, strategies for identifying problem-solving behavior that works and how to make changes last, “uncommon-sense” methods for breaking unproductive patterns. Inspirational and accessible, Divorce Busting shows readers in pain that working it out is better than getting out.

For All Eternity is for any individual or couple who want to improve communication and strengthen their marriage relationship. It teaches practical tools for enhancing your relationship and resolving conflict. Dr. Lund is a popular speaker, author, and marriage counselor. He shares his wealth of knowledge, insight, and humor on the all-important topic of improving communication and strengthening marriage relationships. In this book you will laugh as you and your spouse see yourselves in Dr. Lund’s descriptions of the differences between men and women and how we communicate. You will be enlightened as you take his Love Language Quiz and find out how to speak your spouse’s love language. You will learn how to use active and reflective listening skills to resolve conflict in your relationships. Finally, you will understand the art of giving an apology and accepting responsibility. All of these tools and more, combined with Dr. Lund’s trademark humor and stories, will make this book an important resource in strengthening your marriage and helping it last For All Eternity.

This two volume set (For Men Only and For Women Only) is for anyone who has a relationship with someone of the opposite sex or just wants to understand them better. The Feldhahn’s lay out half a dozen or so ways that men and women think differently resulting in some significant misunderstandings and missed opportunities to connect. Following the guidelines in these books are sure to improve your relationship with your opposite sex partner and make it more fulfilling.

In, Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. Through seven healing conversations, case studies, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

According to Dr. Shirley Glass, “the godmother of infidelity” (The New York Times), people today are cheating on their spouses more than ever before, especially in the workplace. Dispelling common myths with compelling new research and case studies, NOT “Just Friends” is a groundbreaking chronicle of what occurs before, during, and after an affair: the danger signs, the vulnerabilities of even good marriages, and the step-by-step road to healing and protecting monogamy in the aftermath.

From the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman: reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection,” introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection, provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids.

John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples. Here is the culmination of his life’s work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

Rules for romance that can help you find the love of your life between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries–boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. Even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life. Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for.

This is a dating system for anyone who is having trouble recognizing red flags in dating relationships, having trouble getting past the first few dates, or just can’t seem to get any quality people interested. Dating is a four book system with DVDs, and tools to help you navigate the sometimes confusing world of successful dating. To get more information or order you can find Dating at www.itsnotyouitsyourtechnique.com.

Author Stan Cronin’s curiosity led to his writing this unique book! He devised and circulated a very detailed questionnaire in which he asked wives about their dating relationships with their husbands. More than a thousand wives responded, and brother, did they unload on him! They wrote very frank replies revealing both the good and bad traits of their husbands, and expressing exactly what they desired in their husband-wife relationships. Personal desires and viewpoints varied, of course, but their cumulative answers sent some strong signals to the husbands of today.

Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts is for couples who are preparing for marriage. It teaches practical skills to create a loving and lasting marriage. Created by relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, this is a comprehensive marriage program designed specifically for today’s couples. This is more than a book–it’s practically a self-guided premarital counseling course. Questions at the end of every chapter help you explore each topic personally. Relationship experts Les and Leslie Parrott show you the secrets to building a marriage that lasts. Uncover the most important mis-beliefs of marriage. Learn how to communicate with instant understanding. Discover the secret to reducing and resolving conflict. Master the skills of money management. Get your sex life off to a great start. Understand the three essential ingredients to lasting love. Discover the importance of becoming “soul mates” … and more.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay is a book of common reasons that people sometimes consider ending a marriage or long term relationship. It discusses how people who have been in such situations and stayed ended up in terms of relationship and life satisfaction. It will not make the decision for you but it can help you to discover the questions you might want to ask before you decide.

Grief and loss, anxiety and depression are constant companions to the roughly 18 percent of couples of childbearing age who are facing the devastation of infertility. To add insult to injury, relationships can be put at risk when couples feel as if their life is on permanent hold. With On Fertile Ground: Healing Infertility in hand, readers will learn how to turn the tables on change and ride the infertility wave rather than be swamped by it. This essential new book will leave readers feeling understood, and help them comprehend the extent of infertility’s impact. Author Helen Adrienne, an award-winning psychotherapist, wrote the book from a mind/body perspective and more than thirty years of experience with infertility patients.

This therapist guide fills this gap by distilling the techniques empirically validated by these clinical trials into one comprehensive, user-friendly volume. Organized into three parts, Hypnosis for Chronic Pain Management summarizes the findings from research, examines the effects of hypnosis on pain, and provides step-by-step instructions for performing hypnotic inductions and making hypnotic suggestions. Designed to be used in conjunction with the corresponding patient workbook, this unique therapist guide is written for clinicians who treat patients with chronic pain and who wish to incorporate hypnosis and hypnotic procedures into their treatment protocols, or those clinicians who already have training in clinical hypnosis and hope to acquire the skills needed to apply it to pain management.

How has mindfulness, a treatment tool that might easily have been dismissed as esoteric only a few short years ago, become so widely accepted and applied? One obvious answer: Because it works. The empirical foundation documenting the therapeutic merits of mindfulness is already substantial and is still growing. This is not a book about documenting the therapeutic merits of mindfulness, however. Rather, this book is the first of its kind to address how and most importantly why guided mindfulness meditations can enhance treatment. The focus in this book is on the structure of guided mindfulness meditations and, especially, the role of suggestion in these processes. Specifically, one of the primary questions addressed in this book is this: When a psychotherapist conducts guided mindfulness meditations (GMMs) for some clinical purpose, how does mindfulness work?

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children’s behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, ‘The Stress Model.’ While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children.

In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.

Dr. Nelson’s book is for parents of preschoolers who are struggling with discipline/behavior problems with their child. It will help parents prevent misbehavior and instill valuable social skills in children. Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love the child, there will be moments filled with anger, frustration, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my child deliberately lie to me? Why won’t she listen to me? Should I ever spank her when she is disobedient? This book offers a commonsense approach to child-rearing that so often is lacking in today’s world. Positive Discipline for Preschoolers teaches how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You’ll find practical solutions on how to: prevent misbehavior through non-punitive discipline—not punishment, avoid the power struggles that often come with the challenges of mastering sleeping, eating, and potty training instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home by using methods that teach important life skills, employ family and class meetings to tackle discipline and developmental problems.

Does your child constantly misbehave and ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Is your relationship with your child based on conflict instead of mutual respect and cooperation? With the help of this groundbreaking book, you can create a positive, respectful, and rewarding relationship with your child. Inside are proven techniques and procedures that provide a refreshing alternative to the ineffective extremes of punishment and permissiveness. Parents and teachers alike will discover how to effectively motivate the strong-willed child and achieve proper conduct.

The Truth about Children and Divorce is a comprehensive guide to what to do and what not to do in the process of divorce. It covers topics from how to tell your children you are moving out to how to deal with difficult custody problems long after the divorce is final. It talks about different ages and what parenting schedules seem to be most advantageous for children. This is recommended for anyone who has children and is contemplating divorce, is in the midst of one, or wants to improve relationships with the children’s other parent.

Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not only its theoretical aspects, its psychodynamics and the defense mechanisms within the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. Yet, little if anything has been written about how to actually communicate with one, or what Lachkar refers to as the “Language of Empathology.” This book focuses on specific communication styles in addressing patients with severe narcissistic personality pathology which can be extremely beneficial to mental health professionals, who are often inundated with technical terms rather than offered a practical guide on how to actually “talk” to a narcissist.

After more than two decades as the essential guide to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), this new edition now reflects the most up-to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder as well as connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome, ADHD, and eating disorders.

Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are “walking on eggshells” to avoid the next confrontation?If the answer is “yes,” someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.

Martin Seligman has been studying how to make those who are “healthy” even better for decades. His landmark work has revolutionized how teachers interact with students in countries around the world. He currently is working with the U.S. Military to revamp how they train soldiers through training the drill Sergeant. Instead of looking at what is wrong with people and trying to make it right Dr. Seligman looks at what is right with people and how to enhance it. Authentic Happiness teaches the principals He has learned and is a wonderful way to learn how to make what is good even better.

There are fundamental differences in the way people who are thin without thinking about it and those who struggle with extra weight think. The Beck Diet solution helps those who struggle with weight change the way they think about food in support of formal dieting plans. It is recommended for any who are willing to take the time to change the way they think so they can more easily eliminate weight and maintain a weight more easily that is more in keeping with their desired goals.

The full-size edition of this inspiring Zondervan title has sold nearly 1 million copies. The Gold Medallion award-winning Christian book, by two psychologists who’ve written a number of self-help guides, offers a realistic, compassionate plan for setting healthy boundaries with family, friends, and co-workers.Boundaries explore the reasons for problems in one’s life, such as anxiety, depression and dissatisfaction. The reason for such feelings, according to the authors, is a lack of boundaries. Boundaries allow a person to say no with a clear conscious. A person with proper boundaries, according to this book, possesses a clear view of his or her own responsibilities and desires.

Dr. Daniel Amen is a psychiatrist and the founder of the Amen Clinic. His development of paper and pencil tests to help identify what is happening in the brain and how to change it to improve functioning in areas of anxiety, depression, anger, impulsiveness, and even ADHD makes this book a great resource. Dr. Amen recommends medication, herbal supplements, cognitive behavioral tasks, as well as things like music and changes in diet to improve the brain’s performance. The book can be used to enhance treatment received in the therapy office.

Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent–and you may find yourself in this book.
The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.
With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.

In this groundbreaking book, Michelle Morand, Founder and Director of The CEDRIC Centre, gives readers a solid road map to recovery from their use of food as a coping strategy. “Food is not the Problem” is filled with insights and tools that cover the three key areas of recovery: Your relationship with food; Your relationship with yourself; and Your relationship with others.

Thanks is a great little book about how gratitude can improve many areas of life from life satisfaction to weight loss. It provides the science of gratitude and gives exercises to improve how you think and how satisfying your life can be.